chasing ceremony/convincing myself
Hollie McNish · 2021
chasing ceremony/convincing myself
Hollie McNish · 2021
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Background
Her last surviving grandmother died during the pandemic, and she watched the funeral on a live stream from three hundred miles away. She has written about panicking over what to wear and whether to have tea or prosecco, sitting on her own.
Meaning
A woman who cannot get to her grandmother's funeral says so, and then holds one where she is. Her gran's favourite colour was yellow, not black, and she told her daughters never to let the neighbours clap her hearse.
Who's it for
Somebody who loved them and cannot be in the room. Right where a brother is abroad, a sister is too ill to travel, or the person who knew them longest is the one who has to watch on a screen.

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Hollie McNish
British · Around 43 years old
Hollie McNish is a poet who lives between Cambridge and Glasgow. She won the Ted Hughes Award for Nobody Told Me, and she's written five more collections since Papers came out in 2012.
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