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It is not growing like a tree

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Ben Jonson · 1640

It is not growing like a tree

Ben Jonson · 1640

It is not growing like a tree In bulk, doth make man better be; Or standing long an oak, three hundred year, To fall a log at last, dry, bald, and sere: A lily of a day Is fairer far in May, Although it fall and die that night; It was the plant and flower of light. In small proportions we just beauties see; And in short measures, life may perfect be.

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Comforting Gone too soon Unusual Uplifting

Background

Jonson wrote it in memory of a friend's son who died at about twenty. It was printed in 1640, three years after Jonson himself died.

Meaning

A long life isn't the same thing as a good one. An oak can stand three hundred years and end up a dead log, while a lily lasts a day and is the better thing.

Who's it for

Anyone who died young, and a family who need to hear that a short life was still a whole one. Right for a person who packed a lot in.

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When I go from hence

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